The 10-and-5 rule.
Counterintelligence trainers really teach it: if they’re a 10 and you’re a 5, ask why. Romance is the oldest way in.
Boyfriend checkFile Nº 003
Is your boyfriend
secretly a spy?
Seven questions built on real counterintelligence red flags: how you met, whether they’re a 10 and you’re a 5, whether they agree with absolutely everything. Every answer counts, and the verdict shows your red flags.
9 passport desks·7 questions, every answer scored
Exhibit H / “11 mins in the driveway”Fig. 04
Field manual / Partner desk
Three signs your partner might be an asset
Agrees with everything.
Mirroring every opinion builds trust fast. So does criticising your work until you explain it in detail.
A past you can’t check.
No old friends, no baby photos, a profile made last year. Fake profiles often have nothing on them but a good photo.
Step 01
Pick who you’re checking.
Girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband, then their passport: nine desks from Taipei and Singapore to London, Bengaluru and dual-passport ghosts.
Step 02
Answer seven questions.
Real red flags from counterintelligence and fraud guidance: how you met, who made the first move, how much of their past you’ve actually seen.
Step 03
Post the verdict.
Get a scored SPY or NOT A SPY postcard listing your red flags, in 1:1, 9:16 Story and 16:9 formats.
Bureau FAQ & viral backstory
Why everyone is running the leather-jacket check
Where did the “black leather jacket & strict NDA” spy meme come from?
After the November 2026 Jensen Huang affair apology to Lori Huang and media reports examining an alleged foreign-asset angle, social media turned black leather jackets and “he had no idea” into a viral couple joke. Read the full meme dossier →
How do you know if your partner is secretly an undercover agent?
You don’t check their phone. You answer seven questions built on real counterintelligence red flags—how you met, whether they’re a 10 and you’re a 5, whether they agree with everything—and every answer is scored. Or try a Two-Player alibi match.
Does it work for a girlfriend, boyfriend, wife or husband?
Yes. Pick who you’re checking at the start, and every question, verdict and card uses that word. Shortcuts: /girlfriend, /boyfriend, /wife and /husband.
Is Spy or Not free and private?
Free to play without an account. Solo and two-player answers stay in your browser tab or invite link, and the passport you pick never changes the score: only your answers do.